Will You Marry Me?

Jack Daniels

Ok, to pop the question or not to pop the question? That is the question. If you’ve been living together for who knows how long, there comes a time when it just becomes rude not to have popped the question. Understand that every Sim reaches a stage in their life when they want their partner to be legally obliged to come home every night. Don’t fight it, like a dentist appointment; you know you have to do it. But be calm. Don’t panic. If it feels like you’re about to resign yourself to a life sentence, best not say anything for the moment.

Is it time to get married? So you're in a relationship, and you're thinking about marriage! How can you be sure that you're making the right decision? Well, you can't. But I’ve come up with a list of issues to help you with the big questions.

RELATIONSHIP
You can tell your partner when they have hurt you, instead of holding a grudge and you are able to resolve fights.

You both know that relationships take work, and you are willing to go the distance.

You meet each other’s needs.

You love each other!

You are able to have fun together and your communication skills are well.

You share enough of the same interests and friends that you don't feel like you are always on your own.

MONEY
You have similar spending/saving habits, or you've discussed how you'll each compromise to keep the peace.

You are comfortable with the plan of merging your finances once you get married.

FAMILY
You generally get along with each other's households and if not, you've at least discussed to what extent they will play a role in your future family life.

You've talked about children -- how many you want, or if you want them at all.

If you have children from a previous relationship, your partner treats them with respect and kindness.

If a majority of these statements are true about your relationship, I say go for it! But if not, your relationship needs more work before you're ready to tie the knot.

But be aware that there are many traditions with the proposal. What about the ring? How much do you spend? Where do you pop the question? In the pub? In the bathroom?
The ring is crucial. No Sim wants to wear something for the rest of their life that looks like it came from the trash. Diamonds are a good thing and expect to spend $1000 for the ring. You may be wondering at this moment why you have to bother with all this preparation. Well, bear one thing in mind – your partner’s expectations are high. And when I say high, we’re talking stratospheric. Even the coolest Sim goes to pieces when their partner drops on one knee. Select your location with care. Always keep in mind you are doing the groundwork for making memories. Now all you have to do is actually ask your partner. You have the ring and the ideal spot, what could possibly go wrong?

Be careful with being too ambitious. In downtown Sim City, an unnamed Sim attached a ring to the collar of their partner’s cat, assuming it would trot to the mailbox to be petted by their unsuspecting partner. Unfortunately, the Sim stepped on the cat’s tail. It screeched, bolted out of the house and across the road into oncoming traffic. The ring was never quite the same. Then again, a wealthy friend of mine took their partner on holiday for three weeks in Tiki Village. While there the Sim had a private helicopter pick them up and take them thirty miles out to sea on a small deserted island, where a table for two set up in the shallow water, miles from anywhere. On the table were Champagne, oysters and a diamond-encrusted engagement ring. The Sim’s partner couldn’t say yes quick enough. Bottom line is that all you need is a bit of inspiration and imagination, oh and cash helps too. The ‘miles from anywhere’ is a nice touch. Proposing in public often backfires, another friend (no cash, no sense) popped the question by turning up at their partner’s place of work and dropping on one knee in the middle of the floor. The Sim died of embarrassment, refused, dumped my friend and took out a court order against him.

If your partner says no? Find out why and try again later, persistence is the key.